2Pac Chivalry isn’t dead.
It’s never been dead. Ever. If anything, it’s been mistakenly buried alive.
I don’t care how many assholes you’ve dated. I don’t care how many times you’ve been forced to go dutch. I don’t care how many doors haven’t been opened for you. I don’t care how many times he didn’t stand up for you. It’s never been true and it will never be true. It’s one thing to recognize a decline in the treatment of women in our society as a whole (that’s a whole ‘nother topic and one that can be blamed on actions from BOTH genders) and it’s another to make a completely false statement like “chivalry is dead” and parade it around as if that’s the reason why
you’re single you’ve had less than ideal interactions with men.
I almost went off on facebook because of this. My friend put up a status asking when chivalry died. Of course, the status was rich with CAPS to make sure everyone could hear it, a million question marks, and it specifically called out men to
give a reason explaining why we purposefully cause her so much pain & suffering answer her question. As someone who has heard this opinion referenced as a scientific fact for years, I should’ve known better than to take the bait. *sigh* Instead, I calmly cosigned a comment (say that five times fast) a male friend of mine had left. It explained that she was probably just dealing with the wrong people. Then, another woman left a comment saying, and I quote, “those “right” people should SHOW THEMSELVES so we know they exist..thank youu.”
Oh, that’s right. I forgot that all the good men out there are, for no reason whatsoever, purposefully hiding from you. How dare they! Men should start wearing huge neon signs that say “Chivalry Here” with an arrow pointing to their
penis face. Or let’s create a Chivalrous Men online registry! That way you’ll know how many chivalrous men live in your neighborhood. I mean, if good men would just SHOW THEMSELVES and stop forcing women into the arms of douchebags we wouldn’t have women thinking that chivalry is dead. *facepalm*
The funny thing is that by spreading this false notion around, women do nothing but end up disrespecting the men out there who actually are courteous. I mean, I have to say, as a chivalrous man (or at least I think I am) I always end up feeling very unappreciated whenever this topic comes up. When you say “chivalry is dead” you’re basically dismissing everything that me and men like me have done and continue to do. We get turned into a fairy tale character. A myth. Something that only exists in dreams and Disney movies. Not to mention the fact that you just sound bitter in the process, which isn’t attractive at all. #pointdeduction #staylosing
Having said that, if their outlook on men is that most would never voluntarily open a door for them, then that’s their opinion & they’re entitled to it. I actually feel bad for anyone who believes this. I mean, how does it feel to have no hope? To think to yourself, “Men don’t know how to respect women and treat them right.
But at least my cats love me.” That’s gotta be depressing.
Now, I know that there are plenty of jerks out there that cause women to have this mindset and I apologize on their behalf (really, I do), but don’t confuse us with them. That would be unfortunate for you. Having said that, there are plenty of men who also generalize women into negative stereotypes. I don’t excuse that either. However, if you want a discussion on that, one of you
independent women can write a blog post about it. I gotta go dig Chivalry out the graveyard again.
Side note: I do want to thank those women who appreciate and acknowledge the existence of chivalrous men even if their experiences have been far from perfect.